I was asked what turns me on in porn. I am not a huge fan of porn, I don’t like the business behind it and I don’t like how the actors are treated, plus I prefer to rely on my imagination during solo action, but if I have to name the criteria for good porn: I have to see everything, it needs to be slower than typical mainstream porn and there needs to be passion between the actors. I also prefer black and white images. It makes it all look less like a butcher shop with moving parts and it is just classy and more tasteful.
I am not going to explain exactly what I like in graphic detail. Am going to let the images speak for themselves. Somebody told me he can spot a pattern in my likes that I don’t see… Maybe you will see it, so do let me know then.
I wasn’t sure if I wanted to make this post, but anyway, here goes…
Enjoy!
Editor’s note (November 2026): This collection reflects one woman’s preferences, not what all women want. For a research-based companion, see What do women actually want from porn?, Are unusual sexual fantasies normal?, and What do sex dreams mean?. The original selection and text remain unchanged.
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