
64. Don’t be TOO nice. This may come as a shock but women do want to see SOME aggression in a guy. So yes, pull that hair. The key is that you should warm her up before you get a little rough. If you don’t understand how many women like to be dominated in bed – in a respectful relationship – then you don’t understand women.
65. Take initiative. Take her out. Decide things. Just have her think a little less. Get her out of her fussy mind. She’ll be grateful for every moment you manage to take her mind off her next deadline at work, the grades of her kids, the laundry, the dust on the window sill, her sleazy boss, her headaches, her constant worries over whether she said the right thing or not, her never ending self-criticism…
66. Take out the trash. Don’t wait for her to tell you. Don’t tell her you did, otherwise it’s like you’re expecting brownie points.
67. Dissapear for at least a week. Go into hiding. Don’t contact her. Not even once. Really vanish without a trace. She will be so happy to see you when you finally re-appear! Wait, before you set up camp in the basement, DO NOT DO THIS. Always let her know where you are and always let her know when you will be home, approximately (yes, approximately, you really don’t need to be perfect).
68. Be very, very aware of any allergies she may have.
69. Don’t let her fall asleep on the wet spot.
70. Throw a party for no reason. Invite all your friends. Give the party a silly theme. Like the choco puffs party or something.
71. Water balloons.
72. Your objective is to get to such a level of communication that one or two words exhanged between you give pages worth of information.
73. Decide on a ‘I want to home’ sign. Like you can agree that if one of you draws a circle on the other’s body, it means that he or she wants to leave and go home. As a couple you end up in many different social settings, some are nice and some aren’t, sometimes you are just tired. It’s not always easy to find the right moment to leave, so thanks to this covert signal it will become easier to ship out without making it awkward for anyone involved. Do it, it’s really a time saver.
74. Have your portrait painted.
75. Call in sick together and cook up so much food on this stolen free day that you will not have to cook for weeks, freeing up time to do all kinds of other nice things.
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your blogs are based on reality. i can relate. this is the first time I’m even commenting to a blog site… good work 💙
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Thanks a lot. I didn’t want to be yet another site promising you can achieve aaaanything in life and repeat derivatives of the same ten or so motivation strategies. How did you find this blog?
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