1. Foreplay is key

And foreplay is not the five minutes you grab her before you try putting your dick inside. Foreplay builds hours and hours before you are even half undressed. Go slowly. Cover her in verbal and physical affection. Touch her non-sexually and also a bit sexually throughout the day. Understand that women’s sexuality is far more sophisticated than men’s. An important aspect is that she wants to feel desired. And you do desire her, don’t you? Then show it! But not just by jumping her bones. Show it by valueing everything about her. Praise her. Make love to her head first. Tell her what effect she has on you, what you want to do to her, what you want her to do to you. The main thing is that she should feel the connection between you, so she won’t feel like some inanimate and replaceable sex toy. If you want to arouse a woman, involve all her senses, take your time and express your desire for her.

2. BE SLOW

If she is not begging for it, you’re still going too fast. Speed up later, but take your time. You do love sex, right? Well, then make it last as long as possible.

3. Don’t start licking her pussy until you have kissed every other spot

Unless you don’t care how much she enjoys it and you are a selfish asshole who very likely have lame sex with a woman while she is imagining being with someone else.

4. Explore her pussy like the most fanatical cartographer and always treat her pussy like uncharted territory

What one woman loves is pure torture to an other. Some women love it when you lift the hood of the clitoris with two fingers and lick her very directly on her clit. Others will just find it painful. Some have very sensitive labia, some do not. Each individual woman also changes day to day. Also the taste changes, when she is ovulating she will taste differently for example. By the way, if you got her in the right mood and she feels totally relaxed around you she will push her pussy against your tongue and she will move up and down.

5. Use your hands

While you are licking go everywhere with your hands. Grab her flesh with hunger. The more she feels desired the more she will enjoy it. There will be times she wants your penis inside and she will make you stop licking. You can easily put in a finger or two and make a ‘come here gesture with them’ or do nothing and she will ride your fingers. You almost cannot hurt her with your tongue, but you can hurt her with your fingers, so be careful. Especially keep your nails short. And wash your hands, with dirty hands you could give her a bladder infection and you definitely do not want that. Also, do not finger her too vigorously, and sometimes she just wants to focus on the sensations of your tongue, she will push your arm gently to indicate she doesn’t need the fingers at the moment. When she comes she will most likely push your head away. Lie next to her, wipe your mouth off – for her – and hug and kiss her. Keep kissing and touching her body, but don’t touch her vagina for a while. It’s usually ok to penetrate her at this point, you can stay in her without moving for a while, she will soon want you to move.

6. Her most eroticized body part is her… brain

You can have the best cunnilingus technique in the world, but if you do not see the real her, if you do not truly desire her, if your mind is wandering, if you do not build closeness and intimacy, if she doesn’t feel how much you want to be with HER, specifically, her pleasure will be greatly diminished. The biggest key to sexual bliss with a woman is to create a private reality just for the both of you, a castle of pleasures, where her every day stress does not exist anymore and where she can unleash her passion, unbridled. If you don’t have shaky legs afterwards and you don’t have her body scent all over you and she is not looking at you like ‘how on earth could you bring me so far out of my shell? But I loved it!’ then you didn’t do it right.

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