‘I want you’, writes Ahmed.
I’m standing in a Bratislava tram and am unashamedly reading everything on a woman’s mobile phone. Over her shoulder. She’s sitting close enough to read everything. The only thing that makes it difficult is the speed. She’s bombarded by messages. I think she is on Badoo. At the same time she’s talking to a female friend sitting next to her. That one is on Facebook. We really do make time for each other today, don’t we?
Ahmed writes her in Russian, but the woman shoots back:
‘No understand’
Slovaks have crappy English.
The interpreter and people pleaser in me wants to jump up and say:
‘He’s writing that he is a very nice and honest man’
I would instantly ruin the last miserable vestige of a chance he has with this woman.
I am a nice and honest man?
Ha!
You might as well get a cat and feed your dick and balls to it. With that kind of attitude towards women they instantly become useless attachments that are just going to cause you more agony.
Some other guy tries a less direct approach and asks:
‘You seem to have a lot of Arabs under your connections. How do you know them?’
God…
I mean, sorry, Allah…
Dude, you want to get into her pants. Who the fuck cares why she knows so many Arabs? Maybe she secretly wants to be imprisoned in a harem and ritually abused every night. Who cares?
Sure, you need to make some meaningless chitchat before a woman is willing to spread her legs for you, but still.
Getting laid is obviously the only goal this lecherous horde has.
Lecherous means horny.
Horny means they want to slam their dick inside her holes and rid themselves of the demon seed that is driving them so crazy that they are investing their time into asking questions they absolutely do not want to ask, but do pose, because they are so desperate to shoot their load in a somewhat ok looking gal.
She wasn’t pretty. Here among Slovak women she was a four, which is very low. Of course, online, she has carefully selected pictures to make her look as sexually attractive as possible.
I’ve only just met an 8,5. A receptionist at a law firm where I teach. That one was hot, and she knew it, she could tell I was attracted, even though I was trying to be as stonefaced and disinterested as possible. At least I had plausible deniability. I don’t want to feed the ego of these Slovenky anymore, in most cases they have nothing to offer but their looks, and if they want you, they will make it abundantly clear, usually after seeing your car or your paycheck. So why bother?
The lady on her phone is clearly just getting a whopping ego fix out of her Badoo game. She’s only responding with one or two words max.
Where are you right now?
Work
What are you going to do tonight?
Eat
She’s not investing in these guys. She’s just massaging her ego.
Online the same 15 percent of men are attractive for women. The rest loses. 85 percent of men are entirely chanceless on an app like Tinder. This also makes sure that the women on an app like that are not going to get anywhere with a guy they really like, and if she does get to date him, she can count on it that he’s simultaneously dating and fucking at least 5 others and people – men and women alike – have the unfortunate egotistical demand that they want to be the only one for the person they are dating.
So, conclusion, online dating sucks for everyone, EXCEPT for the 15 percent of men that have a profile that all the women find attractive. They get laid, they get plenty of sex and no commitment, usually making lots of women unhappy in the process.
Sure, any halfway decent looking chick can get ego boosts from hordes of lecherous guys trying to get into her pants. But at the end of the day it will leave her feeling empty, no fancy dick to fill the void. You can’t get off on cheap compliments from guys with low market value.
Make no mistake: women turn into predators when they spot a guy with high social value. It’s a myth that guys are always the hunters. It’s just an impression we get because there are so few guys that women consider to be worth the effort. 15 percent. Probably far less than that in the offline world.
The chances of finding a great relationship on an dating app, while not zero, are definitely rather marginal. If you’re a woman and you like a guy a lot, he’s fucking others, and if you’re a guy who likes a woman on a dating app there’s a very, very high chance she does not give a flying fuck about you, she’s just mildly enjoying your compliments and needy attention, quite like a passive vampire you keep feeding your blood for a reward that never comes.
It’s paradise for women who just want sex, instantly, right now, any time of the day. But, let’s face it, there aren’t many women like that. Plus she would have to take major risks. For women it’s always a huge risk to be available, you never know what kind of creep you are letting in. And there’s only a small chance that he will be any good in bed. Plus, nobody can find out, because no woman wants to be seen as a slut.
In the end:
Men first want sex with a woman before he can feel intimate with her.
Women first want intimacy with a guy, before she’ll want to have sex with him.
These needs are in direct opposition.
This clash is why humanity is losing so much of its precious time and energy trying to ‘hook up’
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Where are these ‘Slovenky’ hiding? I know many of them but none of them is like that.
In defense of online dating, I know quite a few couples who met online and are happy together in meaningful and long-term relationships. I would say online dating is a tool and when used smartly, it can bring some good results. A bit of luck helps as well. Because seriously…when is someone past their 30s, what is the best way to find a partner? At work or through common friends? That’s possible but usually provides very limited options if any at all.
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Of course you don’t see them, because you are not like them, so you don’t associate with them, but they’re everywhere, and the ones you know are probably not telling you everything. I mean, I’m not crazy, I see what I see, and my friends confirm they see them too… Am sure some people find a good relationship through online dating, but all couples I know right now were formed offline. I think people who are single and lead a very active life, go out a lot, join a lot of ‘real’ groups have the best chance, if not the certain chance, to find someone. I also suppose that women over 30 in a country like Slovakia will have it very hard, since all guys are looking for a younger one. On top of all, women will of course never admit what they are really triggered by, since they themselves don’t even know. This may sound harsh, but so many guys have confirmed this. Hey, maybe men and women really do live in a completely different reality…
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I think a lot of confusion arises from the fact that when foreigners talk about Slovak women they really mean ‘Hot Slovak women between 18 and 25’, which if you would count might be something like 2 percent of the population
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Anytime I read your articles about Slovak women it seems to me like you hold grudge against us without any particular reason.You should blame the school systems and economics for all those girls being so thirsty for money and being dumb as fuck.I am an 18 years old Slovak girl myself born and raised in Slovakia and I would never pick my partner based on their car or paycheck and 98% of girls I know wouldn’t either.I’m not sure where do you meet all those gold diggers.Besides that I sort of agree with the article.Have a nice day!😊
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I think some confusion has arisen because when we foreigners talk about Slovak women we are only talking about the hottest ones, the ones that look as physically attractive as glamorous cat walk models or fancy porn stars. This is a tiny percentage of the population, obviously. The vast majority of Slovak women are not golddiggers, not into big cars, and are really nice and kind and helpful, unambitious, but dependable and respectful, and just really, incredibly sweet. So often – not always – articles here deal strictly with the gorgeous knock out babes, who almost always fit the patterns described in the articles. There are several posts about Slovak women that are very positive, like when I talk about how Slovak women make excellent students. Those are not the hot ones described elsewhere, who usually don’t need to study much since they have no trouble finding a rich guy as their looks can get them anywhere. What also happens is that, indeed, after a while you start to think ALL Slovak women are like this, because one is so focussed on the drop dead stunning ones. This is certainly unfair, since the vast majority, while physically just average, are really angels. Thanks for the comment and making me reflect. Have a nice day!
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While I admit that my social circle is biased by my own preferences, I agree that the women described in the article represent only small fraction of Slovak women at best and definitely not all of them. And for sure there are many hot Slovak women who have a great personality. But perhaps they do not present themselves in an openly sexy or provocative manner as the ‘knockout babes’ and thus receive less attention from men? Don’t know.
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Out of curiosity, I have looked at the couples in my closest circle and checked how many of them met online and how many offline. Out of 22 couples, the ratio is 13:9 in favour of the ‘offline’ couples. So offline couples still win, but not by a lot. Half of them are already married and among those, offline couples lead 8:3. But I suspect that is mostly because the married couples are slightly older.
I thought about it and it might be that I gravitate towards people who tend to be more on the introverted and shy side. Despite being nice, intelligent and having interested hobbies, they are not always lucky to find a partner through socializing. So for them it is beneficial to have an option of online dating.
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I don’t know any couple that met online. I used to know one, but I don’t know if they are still together. She was a hyperdominant business woman and he was a client of mine, a bipolar physician who got his license taken away and then he tried suicide, which left him partly paralysed for life. It made sense that two people like that would look for someone online. Other than those two I once met a woman who had dated a guy she had met online, but they were not together anymore. What I do hear quite often is people meeting online and then having sex, but it doesn’t result in a real relationship. I don’t know, maybe you attract nice, calm, steady people and I attract the crazy ones.
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The truly hot ones that do not have a bitchy personality – like my wife, I can safely say based on what other guys say about her – evolved like that because they never realized how good-looking they are and never adapted the provocative, self-confident behavior that makes men go wild and the ‘I can get any guy so let’s pick the big muscled one with money and a fancy car’ attitude. It’s sad that when me and my foreigner friends meet we talk only about the ones with porn star quality. We are shallow beings, I completely admit that. Yesterday I was walking around town and I only saw ONE woman who really fit the profile, knock-out hot, intimidatingly attractive. She was waiting for a tram, so she still has to find her rich guy. Ow well, I will write an article about the 98 percent of Slovak women that get to be ignored. It’s also because we are just frustrated that the 2 percent superhot ones do not habitually spread their legs for us whenever we spot one. I’m sure we would be a lot more positive about them then. We’re just intimidated by them. Which doesn’t mean they are nice people, they intentionally make sure they look a way that will make guys druel all over them. I would almost say it’s a form of violence to evoke those emotions in guys knowing that of course you will never do anything with 99,999999 percent of guys. I’m convinced this is how some men start hating women.
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“She was waiting for a tram, so she still has to find her rich guy” – Haha… Maybe she was on the way to discuss the progress on her PhD thesis and was texting with her kind and humble boyfriend. You never know. 😉
I guess all I can really add to this topic is to advise ignoring those girls. Or at least not to worry about them too much. Probably a useless advice but I can’t think of anything better. I would also suspect that many of the ‘bitchy sexy’ girls are not so confident as they might seem. Deep down we all have tricky and complex personalities and we just try to play this game of life the best we can.
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You’re right, though I find it highly unlikely that a woman like that would invest time in any phd research. She got so much attention growing up, that there’s really no need to do that, it would be an unwise investment of energy. Even Einstein – who was quite an asshole – said female scientists would never be beautiful. I’ve never met a woman with a phd that was so attractive she became just painful to look at. Most days I wish these women would simply not exist so my body wouldn’t react to them and distract me from other things. It makes me feel like am some shallow animal. Which apparently I am, if the societal varnish would be scratched off. I don’t think they are confident, but they manage to display confidence and arrogance. The truth is that we are too scared to approach them and maybe find out that they are not bitches, what’s behind it is that we feel we are not good enough for them, and that’s why we turn to hate them and then eventually women in general, to the point we forget that any other women exist. We are dogs!
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Written especially for you, Veronika, inspired by your comments. I hope it’s somehow a bit more nuanced, though the initial premise for the article is not nuanced. https://projectauthenticity.org/2018/07/31/dating-slovakian-women-tips-for-dating-slovakian-girls-the-dating-culture-in-slovakia/
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Hi Karin, I’ve tried to write a more balanced article on Slovak women, your comments are appreciated https://projectauthenticity.org/2018/07/31/dating-slovakian-women-tips-for-dating-slovakian-girls-the-dating-culture-in-slovakia/
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I know at least 2 very attractive and sexy ladies with a well-earned PhD degree. It doesn’t sound like a lot but I am not from a scientific community so there are for sure more of them. I would guess there are many physically attractive women who are intellectually and professionally accomplished. And there will be more and more of them as the number of men and women will further equalize across professions. However, they will never be the majority, since most people are not extremely good-looking. But that’s all right.
In general, I must admit I am struggling to understand this strong focus on looks. I like when both women and men take care of their bodies, health and dress nicely, but I don’t really care how much they meet some kind of beauty criteria. And I have never been specifically drawn to men who look stereotypically sexy. Personality is much more important. It sounds like another stereotype but I swear it’s true. At least in my case.
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I saw the article, will respond later. Just one question now – what’s the reason of choosing Troskova as an accompanying picture? I won’t deny it didn’t really win me over. :O
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I don’t take it seriously when a woman says other women are attractive or sexy. Whenever a woman tells me some woman is sexy and I see her I immediately go: definitely not. And when I point out sexy women to other women they also disagree. It’s very probable I won’t find those two you mention attractive. Yes, most women are not too much into how a guy looks, other factors are more important. Which can be summarized as ‘proof of social status’, but it’s hard to explain in a comment, so you will disagree again 🙂 Personally I wish all of this wouldn’t matter so much so I could focus on something else without hormonal distractions. I keep writing about it, because 80 percent of the traffic on this site only comes here for posts on Slovak women. Which is rather sad…
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It’s meant as a joke. Most foreigners who click on it will have absolutely no idea who she is 😉
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Just to throw in a different view, as I usually do. The importance seems to be shifted in dating to finding SOMEONE or being found by ANYONE at a point of desperation. Albeit for sex, companionship, activity friends, etc., the reason and choice belongs to the individual as to why and what.
But is there a further thought process? Are people seeking others to achieve happiness or sustain happiness? A husband or wife? What? And whatever.
If you can’t love and appreciate yourself. If you don’t really like who you are as a person, regardless of the physical aesthetic why in the hell do people go seeking to find all of their own insufficiency in others whom they hope will MAKE them happy, or fulfill their loneliness?
Think of how much more open we communicate via the app, revealing what we think will attract. Editing the profile words to fit the word limit. Selecting the right “duck-face” picture, or the best mafia, footballer face. All the imagery to avoid the swipe.
Think of the amount of time spent browsing, swiping, and photo viewing; trust me we don’t read all of them.
To sum up, I’m simply saying that, if we all want something and someone different we have to consider doing something we’ve never done before and try to discover something that hasn’t been done. Like knowing what you Do want.
We are all attracted to some sort of element of the genders. People do like sex. They like it with whom they like it with. The ratio of women to men here doesn’t mean shit to me, in fact, it could contribute to the perceived atmosphere of snooty
cuntiness. Yes, I said it and I can welcome anyone who’ll only remember those two words from the remaining context.
The appearance does afford a price. We covet what we see everyday, all of us. We do not think past the flesh for sexual purposes. We don’t always think about the fit of personality and companionship. We think more of how we’ll look in public to others. That is the KEY there: No SUBSTANCE. ALL how it should look. This is Slovakia. This IS the dating culture here.
So, yes this app dating sucks, but only because what we put out there of ourselves is not always real or authentic. Male or female. Show a car in your profile when you don’t have a personality. Showing how pretty you are should be enough, here. Right?
Right?
Here’s an idea. Try going out and smiling and showing that you have a light inside of yourself. Trying showing that you are a people person, not just a businessman with an expensive car. Both sides advertise. Both genders fish. We catch a fish. We throw it back to be re-caught. Some fish try to jump back into the boat, flapping around.
No gender is more or less at fault for anything we say and do. We are different. We just haven’t learned how to accept the differences. Instead we all try to change the other to suit OUR set ways.
Lastly
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Getting laid isn’t the deal for older women. They want money & think we are stupid enough to give it to them if we have any.
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You are welcome to write about your experiences on the website
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I could write a book, a pamphlet actually, on detecting their bullshit. Everyone uses the same format but their stories are creative & I’ve fallen for a few until their true motives were revealed.
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Bring on that book
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It would be like a few guidelines. It would be short. Do you want that?
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Yes, bring it on
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