In the past we have written positively about ‘no fap’ or abstaining from masturbation, sometimes also of ejaculation in general, but usually just masturbation.

After experiencing this for longer periods of time, I must say, that the effects are largely negative. On the plus side I would say it just makes me a lot more assertive and direct. During ‘no fap’ I care a lot less about people’s opinions of me, am more aggressive and tend to take better care of myself. If my only task in life would be to sleep with as many women as possible, I would definitely go on ‘no fap’ immediately.

However, I do not have the luxury of a life devoted solely to seducing women. That would require life style changes I am – apparently – unwilling to make.

So for a ‘regular’ existence this ‘no fap’ stuff comes with huge disadvantages.

Someone commented on our older pro no fap article, and I can totally relate to what he’s saying:

I’ve gone nearly two months without ejaculating before, and, to be quite honest, it was not that great.

My anxiety levels were actually higher than normal, mainly because my drive to interact with women I found attractive was so high that it was stressing me out. I had difficult college classes to worry about and constantly devising plans about how I was going to attract some girl was a major distraction.

I noticed no improvement in mental performance, I was actually more easily distracted by constant sexual thoughts that were extremely intense and emotionally draining to the point where I wanted to cry. I lack the social skills and social status required to attract such women. It may have pushed me to talk to these women, but rejection is devastating and the energy investment was a huge waste of my time.

The worst part is my inability to sleep. If I go without it (as I have this week), I will lay awake at night with sexual thoughts, heart pumping blood to my erection, but I am actively resisting the desire to masturbate. This keeps me from sleeping.

Through my work I have to interact with lots of beautiful, intelligent, attractive women. Even though I’m attracted to only a couple of them, I would also be close to crying if I would have sex on my mind every single second.

No fap quickly becomes a brutal HELL when you can’t act on the massive increase in sexual drive you experience.