Hard to sum up all the passions this swinging Slovenka treasures and nurtures. There’s yoga, writing, traveling, art exhibitions, supporting young artists, translating books that easily weigh ten pounds.
You could say she’s a mermaid like fellow writer Anaïs Nin. She has no fear of depths and a great fear of shallow living. This merry mesmerizing mermaid does not take just anybody to her sanctuary underneath the ocean. So we regard it as a great privilege she wanted to take the time to answer a few questions.
Recently she has fallen in love with an indomitable horse, and she’s managed to ride it like a true Amazone. Yes, we mean that metaphorically. She’s found a home in the embrace of a very special wandering Dutchman.
Oh, and why has her picture dropped to the side? Well, she wanted it that way. She’s got this little cheeky, subversive streak in her. Enjoy her answers!
What is the one thing you could do today that would make everything else easier?
Drop worries, and life will be much easier. At the same, I do not know if it is a good idea. I do not want to get rid of emotions and that means accepting them in their richness and flow. And worrying also means I care.
How are you going to create more value for yourself and others than you did yesterday?
I really, honestly, do not know. I will keep the curiosity up and that may root me in the present moment and that may open me for a deep experience. Eyes wide, you know?
What’s the most important project you’re working on right now?
Finding my financial independence and liberty, hopefully by doing what I love, by fulfilling my dharma (purpose), by bringing goodness to others. For me, that means writing and yoga.
What are you grateful for?
Breath. Yoga. Kindred souls.
What are the positive habits you are building right now?
Working on being non-judgmental in encounters with the others. Hard, because I have been brought up in a very judging environment. Labelling, approving, disapproving, a lot of energy went into this mental activity, but dropping this habit brings great liberation. Can be compared to discarding a heavy backpack, stretching up and breathing fully into the open space.
What is a decision you are absolutely committed to? What is something you absolutely want to accomplish?
I have committed to love.
What have you learned recently?
I learn every day. I learn a couple of Dutch words every morning, it is a ritual. Again, and again I learn not to believe all that my mind suggests. But I also learn to accept the mind instead of fighting it.
How do you want to feel today?
Present, tuned, curious.
How are you going to reward yourself today?
A burger for lunch, sort of a craving. A dance class tonight with my daughter.
What sort of people are you inviting into your life today?
People who bring respect and inspiration.
Name a question you’d really like to see answered.
What does your ideal day look like?
On a beach with my lover. Fresh, cool day and a long walk. Food and wine at a local pub we accidentally stumble upon. Cuddling by the fire place in the evening.
What would you do if you weren’t afraid?
I would try out some flying: skydiving, paragliding or such.
What’s your one word and why?
Abundance. It contains wealth, dance, and miracle.
If your life was a movie, what would be the title?
Walking to the Unknown.
What’s the best kind of business to get into right now?
No idea, asking myself the question, too. I do believe we succeed best when fulfilling our own dharma. It seems that psychology and coaching are the domains humans will need increasingly. The human mind has gotten so f… complicated.
Polygamy or monogamy? And why?
Monogamy. Because we are meant to, the code in us too strong not to be followed. We can only love one person at a time, and sex is the highest expression of love.
What’s the shittiest thing you’ve ever done to someone?
Oh, my, there are a few. Some, I cannot and will not write here, sorry. They are between me and the lamppost. I did a lot of confusing, silly things. For example, inviting a boy to come and see me over and then not meeting him. He travelled 700 kilometres.
What’s the nicest thing you’ve ever done for someone?
I do not know what to pick. hope I do nice things to people – offering yoga sessions, listening, cooking, laughing together, taking care of them and their loved ones.
What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?
I esteem a compliment I receive occasionally, there are variations to one tune: “I feel fine in your company. You have great energy. You inspire.” The favourite coming from my man: “You are almost too much, but never enough.”
If you came with a warning label, what would it say?
Beware labels. 😊
What’s your biggest success?
Hm. The greatest is to be around two exquisite young beings that I have seen and I am seeing to develop and open. I’m talking about my children of course. I am very grateful for their presence without too much pride. The literary achievements, that is more ego driven, though there is a genuine core to the writer´s need to write. And being able to call a couple of people true friends, again, that’s pure bliss and success, I would say.
Recently I was thrilled and very grateful to make it to the final of the Short Story competition.
What advice would you give to your 20-year-old self?
Drop the blame. Other people´s emotions are theirs, not yours.
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