5th of April :: Blog post written to show you how sweet I can be. 100 things to show your girl you love her
You travel a lot, at times you are in the air for a few hours and our now non-stop messaging has to pause. So I came up with this to surprise you. And to prove how affectionate and thoughtful I can be. I suppose it’s called courting or wooing.
It’s remarkable how unspilled libido and desire can get transmuted into all kinds of bittersweet distractions.
1. Slip her favorite candy in the pocket of her coat or in her purse so she will find it later during the day. Add a funny note to it.
- When you see something that reminds you of her let her know.
- Hug her non-sexually as often as you can.
- Get her a teddybear or other stuffed animal. Give it a name that only means something to you and her.
- Make a silly video in which you dance for her.
- Give her an orgasm and don’t expect anything back.
- Hide 50 cards in the house or the room with one compliment on each one.
- Take her out to a surprise location/event.
- Get her a T-shirt with a funny print and hide it under her pillow.
- Send her a postcard of your hometown through the mail even if you’re living together.
- Remember her menstrual cycle and be aware of it, women go through serious hormonal changes week to week, day to day.
- Teach her to play chess or other games.
- From time to time – don’t make it a habit – touch her sort of inappropriately in public locations.She will most likely tell you to stop, but she’ll also secretely like it that you can’t keep your hands off her.
- Cut her a fruit salad.
- Massage her feet while she’s watching her favorite TV show
- Lick her pussy so slowly she can listen to her entire favorite music album
- You can’t go wrong with flowers, especially when there is no special occasion to give them, give them just like that.
- Hide lots heart shaped pieced of soap in the bathroom arranged in such a way that they spell her name.
- Give her an original nickname that fits her.
- Write a message only she can understand with chalk on the side-walk right in front of her door so she will spot it as she walks out the door in the morning.
- Get a fancy breakfast basket, or have it delivered, and eat on the roof during the summer or arrange one room in a very cosy way in winter and have a picknick on the floor.
- Keep her warm at all times. Get her excellent ear warmers. Get her warm shawls. Whatever you do, keep her warm.
- Keep a diary for her and give it to her when it’s full, just write down and document everything you do together. She’ll love it.
- Write her hand-written letters.
- She can never have enough bath salts, massage oils, creams, soaps, silk underwear, scented tissues, sponges, basically anything that increases her comfort.
- Give her the same symbolic object for every time she completely blows your mind. For example: give her a thimble or a smurf or a marble or a shell, it can be anything basically, but preferably something small and inexpensive and durable. Give one to her for every truly outstanding memorable moment you share together.
27. Buy matching T-shirts and/or sweaters. Exactly the same but the color can be different. Link the sweaters to a special occasion.
28. Decorate the Christmas tree together.
29. Have a going to bed ritual. Like read her one page from a novel. Or always kiss her on the forehead. Or have a stone under your pillow and a stone under her pilow. Each night you ritually swap the stones. The point is to have a unique bed time ritual. It reinforces your bond and gives her a heightened feeling of security.
30. Install a musical device in the fridge so that whenever she opens the fridge the intro of her favorite song starts playing.
31. Have a lunch basket delivered to her work, it will make her female colleagues wish they had a lover like you.
32. On her day off pretend you have to work, but also take a day off. Pretend you are leaving for work, but go shop for breakfast and go back home for some early morning love making.
33. Take her on a mini holiday. Book a small hotel in city or village close enough to work and spend the evening and the night there in the middle of the week.
34. Depending on how much she likes public attention create an instagram account called ‘the best part of every day’ and take one picture of her every day and upload it there. Be very careful with this because some ladies really don’t like to see their picture on Instagram. Respect her wishes and boundaries.
35. A classic. Carve your names somewhere. But don’t damage any property.
36. When you visit a museum together write a message in the guestbook, genre ‘I was here with my gorgeous -nickname- on this date’.
37. While on public transportation put your coat over her lap and finger her in plain sight. Nobody will notice or won’t be able to tell for sure. And she will be extra excited.
38. Order chocolate cake and feed it to her. Bit by bit, while you whisper all the sensual stuff you want to do with her.
39. Text her a long and very detailed sexual scenario when she is at work.
40. Invent imaginary friends who become part of your life together. This is a very powerful way to create an exciting life together. Call the water cooker Arthur and invent a life for him, say he’s in love with Marge the oven and that Kelly the cactus is jealous. Women love stories and they love them even more when those stories are only known to her and you and are connected to the life you share.
41. Wherever you go, bring her something. Maybe it reinforces the ancient relationship of the man as the hunter who brings back his catch to the woman in the hut, but it’s a nice way to bond. With experience you can spot something nice in any location. Went to a bar? Bring her one of those cardboard coasters. If the backside is blank write something on it. Bring her a piece of candy from the bowl at the reception of the building you had some business at. Pick up a nut from a garden plot you passed. Nick a spoon at the restaurant you went to for lunch. If you’re in a city that has some local culinary speciality, like some kind of local candy or jam or pastry, bring her some. Just a little. She’ll feel uncomfortable if she feels you’re spending too much money on her.
42. Go for drinks and write down how she looked, what she was wearing and what you two talked about on the back of the bill.
43. Never make her pick up a used condom, always try to dispose of it yourself.
44. During sex pick her up and move her if you see her head is bumping against the head board.
45. Always have handkerchiefs with you. Preferably also a small bottle with disinfectant. Women loooooooove to be clean and free of germs.
46. From the start make it clear you’re comfortable talking about her period. This makes this time of the month at least a tiny bit more comfortable for her. Knowing that she can ask you if you spot a stain on her trousers – they often worry about this – makes her feel less stressed. Learn all about little remedies that make her time of the month less of a nuisance. Make sure she gets enough iron in her food, otherwise she will get tired more often. Certain teas, foods, but also fragrances can help alleviate pain. If it makes her grumpy let her rage. Be considerate. Just imagine if a little dwarf was running around in your belly poking at everything with a nasty bundle of needles. You crave all the crappy food you know isn’t good for you. You feel icky all day and all night. You are worried things might be overflowing down there. You have a headache. You’re tired. And you have to smile to everyone anyway. You would be grumpy too.
47. Keep your nails clean and short. You can be Mr Universe but she is not going to let you anywhere near her with dirty paws.
48. Take her to a children’s playground late at night and talk while you are on the swings.
49. Many women love lip balm, so get her a good one.
50. Wake her up by licking her pussy.
51. Get a pair of dice and write down sexy activities numbered from 2-12, whatever she rolls you do.
52. Get a cup with a print of a picture of you together on it. Get one for both of you. Use yours at work, she will feel super comfortable knowing that people see you’re a couple and that you are off the market.
53. Read the same book. Buy two copies of the same book and read it together at the same time so you can talk about it.
54. Get an Authenticity Diary or a Gratitude Diary and fill it in together every evening.
55. Create a mutual bucket list with lots of things you want to do together as a couple.
56. Binge watch one or two whole seasons of a feel good series like Friends.
57. Create a mutual Facebook profile, and/or any other mutal social media profile, like Twitter, Instagram…
58. Feed her mind. Watch some documentaries about things that really fascinate you and share your passion with her. Even if you think it will bore the hell out of her, if you are passionate about it she will be into it to. If you don’t overdo, of course.
59. Rent a tandem and go biking along a river.
60. We don’t want to encourage drinking, but get totally drunk together at least once.
61. Get two hometrainers so you can watch series together and exercise together. You can even race against each other from the comfort of your home. Double win!
62. Warm up your hands before you touch her. Especially down there.
63. Send her – tasteful! – pornographic gifs.
64. Don’t be TOO nice. This may come as a shock but women do want to see SOME aggression in a guy. So yes, pull that hair. The key is that you should warm her up before you get a little rough. If you don’t understand how many women like to be dominated in bed – in a respectful relationship – then you don’t understand women.
65. Take initiative. Take her out. Decide things. Just have her think a little less. Get her out of her fussy mind. She’ll be grateful for every moment you manage to take her mind off her next deadline at work, the grades of her kids, the laundry, the dust on the window sill, her sleazy boss, her headaches, her constant worries over whether she said the right thing or not, her never ending self-criticism…
66. Take out the trash. Don’t wait for her to tell you. Don’t tell her you did, otherwise it’s like you’re expecting brownie points.
67. Dissapear for at least a week. Go into hiding. Don’t contact her. Not even once. Really vanish without a trace. She will be so happy to see you when you finally re-appear! Wait, before you set up camp in the basement, DO NOT DO THIS. Always let her know where you are and always let her know when you will be home, approximately (yes, approximately, you really don’t need to be perfect).
68. Be very, very aware of any allergies she may have.
69. Don’t let her fall asleep on the wet spot.
70. Throw a party for no reason. Invite all your friends. Give the party a silly theme. Like the choco puffs party or something.
71. Water balloons.
72. Your objective is to get to such a level of communication that one or two words exhanged between you give pages worth of information.
73. Decide on a ‘I want to home’ sign. Like you can agree that if one of you draws a circle on the other’s body, it means that he or she wants to leave and go home. As a couple you end up in many different social settings, some are nice and some aren’t, sometimes you are just tired. It’s not always easy to find the right moment to leave, so thanks to this covert signal it will become easier to ship out without making it awkward for anyone involved. Do it, it’s really a time saver.
74. Have your portrait painted.
75. Call in sick together and cook up so much food on this stolen free day that you will not have to cook for weeks, freeing up time to do all kinds of other nice things.
76. Treat her like a sex crazed nympomaniac in bed, but always, always present her as a the most dignified, composed, calm, responsible, sensible woman in public
77. Pair your own socks
78. Use paper tissues so she doesn’t have to wash your dirty handkerchiefs. Better yet, save both of you some valuable time: take all dirty laudry to a laundry service near you once per week.
79. Realize that the Christmas holiday might not be so much fun at all for her, because for many women it still involves the traditional hassle of lots of cleaning and baking and playing the ever smiling hostess for visitors. Be sure to give her space as much as you can and help her out by at least doing most of the groceries and helping with the decorations.
80. Play the most romantic song you can think of and dance with her BEFORE the two of you leave for work. Do it even if you can’t dance at all.
81. Massage her entire body, not just her shoulders. Do it until she falls asleep.
82. Walk through an IKEA store and try out all the pre-designed sitting rooms, kitchens, bedrooms, fancy chairs, etc and play house.
83. Let her shower first.
84. If you have to book a hotel make sure she doesn’t need to do anything at all. Deal with the reception, the check-out, everything.
85. Don’t let her eat alone.
86. Touch her. Depending on the situation don’t let her go untouched for longer than 30 minutes. This doesn’t need to be elaborate touching, just some touching, sometimes even just one gentle stroke along her back.
87. From time to time, give her all possible room to dominate entirely in the bedroom. Let her feel entirely in control. If she didn’t end up sitting on your face you didn’t give her enough space to take charge.
88. Carry the heaviest articles when you go for groceries.
89. Never remind her of the things you do for her. If you are always considerate of her needs and aware of her moods she will remind you, don’t worry.
90. If she has children and you are not the father always show genuine interest in them. She is a mother first, then your lover, never the other way around. Accept that.
91. 80 percent of your compliments should be about something else than her looks.
92. If you’re ticklish let her tickle you. Let her be a little nasty to you to a certain extent as long as it’s playful. A woman who is really comfortable around you starts teasing you. Take it as a sign that she is no longer threatened by your masculinity and that she enjoys being with a man without having to be afraid. Sad to say but initially you are a very scary threat to a woman. So imagine her relief when she feels she can feel safe around you and do what she wants and play with you a bit.
93. Kiss her in places most other guys will skip.
94. Don’t make her rush.
95. Let your actions not contradict your words. Women get very angry and sad when a man is not true to himself.
96. If you mess up, apologize and explain, and if she’s mad at you try not to give her too many arguments as to why she should forgive you. Make the case in your defence and then let it be. If she forgives you or not is no longer in your hands and the more you will try to reason with her the more guilty and manipulative you will seem.
97. Look for what is unique between the two of you and emphasize it.
98. Do NOT bombard her with questions as to why she does or does not do certain things. Don’t ask her to explain her behavior, and don’t ask her to justify her actions. As long as she doesn’t do something that goes too far in your eyes give her space, let her be. The less you pressure her, the more she will open up.
99. Sex is not the main show for her, the main show for her is how much unconditional affection, attention and appreciation you give her.
100. Don’t forget that she also wants to know if she can satisfy you in bed, while most guys are worried sick about their performance in bed, consider that she is also hoping you are satisfied with her.
101. Stay spontaneous. You don’t need to work out a kamasutra routine. She’s not work out machine, so don’t run through some sort of workout routine in the bedroom. She will feel it when you are too much in your head and not following your desire for her and it will lessen her arousal. If you lovingly do whatever you want with her she’ll enjoy it. And if you ever do something she doesn’t like she will give you subtle clues to stop it. Once she gives you the green light unleash your desire for her. If she feels comfortable around you and you give her the space for it she will indicate through many different signs what she prefers. And bonus 102 hold her hand or both her hands while you are licking her pussy. The feeling of connection becomes almost like floating in a bubble of intimacy.
The Confessor 