• This list is regularly updated

  • If you have a problem with me, tell it to me directly, don’t go behind my back, I am very open to resolving any kind of conflict
  • Don’t pretend to agree with me when you don’t
  • Don’t do any ‘ad hominem’ attacks when we’re discussing something
  • I will give you a second chance, and even a third, but never a fourth
  • Don’t mistake my kindness for weakness
  • I will praise you in public and criticize you when we meet, in private. Try to do the same
  • I will give you books, but not borrow them, because I’ve lost tons of books by lending them to people
  • So far there’s no ideology I’m a strict follower of
  • I’m not a christian and don’t believe in a christian God, but I try to act like a real christian is supposed to act
  • I will turn the other cheek, but only the first time
  • I have only one real phobia, and it’s an actual phobia: I panick when I have to fill in paperwork
  • If you really want to help me, help me do my administration
  • I will respect your freedom as long as you respect my freedom
  • If you tell me to stop, I will stop immediately
  • Don’t be selfish
  • Don’t try to keep everything for yourself if you expect us to stay in contact
  • I want to win at games, if I take them seriously, and my behavior during those games does not reflect my behavior in real life
  • I may flirt with your girlfriend, if I like her
  • If I’m very attracted to you, it will show
  • I have no secrets…
  • I would like to outwork most people I know, but I have to fight with my laziness every day
  • I don’t care about your title, clothes, sexual orientation, religion, race, sexual identity, background, or any kind of luxury items you might own, I care about your personality and the way you treat other people
  • If you insult people and consider them your inferior, we will not stay in touch
  • I know when you’re a worker and when you’re just pretending to be a worker
  • I can usually guess your real motivation for doing or saying something
  • I hate braggarts and I hate it when I brag myself
  • I love generosity
  • I don’t understand stingy people…
  • I prefer emotional currency over financial currency
  • Don’t bragg about your ideals and values and how you want to change the world if you treat people around you like shit
  • I have a pretty accurate narcissist radar, because it takes one to know one
  • My narcissism is rarely pathological, and its intensity is decreasing
  • I don’t like concerts and find them to be a form of torture, but I don’t mind if you love concerts, I just don’t want to go
  • I’m more comfortable on a stage than in front of a stage, because I quickly feel like I’m not enough and insignificant. People who need the spotlight, don’t shine from within, so I guess I don’t shine from within.
  • I can heal awful, tragic pain (possibly my only really useful gift)
  • I love you, but without getting attached to you
  • I love animals too much to keep them as pets (I would constantly worry about them)
  • I get a pounding headache three days out of seven
  • I really do think we can and should give everyone free food and free housing
  • I believe schools should educate ‘civitas’, and teach people how politics really work, and encourage people to be politically active. It’s mind-boggling how many people want to have nothing to do with politics. It’s decides everything. Yes, everything. Well, ok, almost everything
  • I wish more people would know why and how newspaper articles are really made, and who really pays for them
  • I wish more people would talk about ideas and not other people
  • I am polyamorous, but very loyal
  • I think in English
  • I have been obsessed by the American Civil since my fourth or fifth birthday, I can’t explain why this is. I have found a lot of therapeutic comfort in reading about the American Civil War
  • You have been my friend or have dated me if you find you know more about the American Civil War than you ever thought you would
  • Nirvana’s music sounds exactly like I feel inside a lot of the time
  • My native language is a Dutch dialect that’s very different from standard Dutch, so when I speak standard Dutch I feel like I’m using a foreign language (really)
  • I don’t like to travel
  • I hate violence, but am human and can become violent if you push the wrong buttons repeatedly and on purpose
  • I believe people just like you and me operated the concentration camps
  • I would like to see ‘seduction 101’ taught in all secondary schools, based on the experience of the best pick- up artists, for both male and female students
  • I think everyone should watch the Zeitgeist movies, Culture in Decline, Four horsemen, Inside job, 97 percent owned
  • I think we could all benefit from reading up on Jung
  • I think the biggest influence on our actions and desires is the unlived life of our parents
  • I think almost all friendships between a man and a woman have a sexual component
  • Am too lazy to shop for clothes
  • There’s no alcoholic drink I like the taste of
  • I am pro legalising all drugs, although the only drugs I like the effect of are caffeine and cocaine, when used only on rare occasions
  • I think a war on drugs is adding insult onto injury, since addicts are heavily traumatized and lonely, otherwise they wouldn’t become addicted
  • Addiction is ritualized comfort seeking, and is a normal reaction to severe emotional scarring
  • If I have any weird beliefs, they are the following: I believe in karma, good and evil, and good money and bad money
  • I’m a lot more fun in person than in my writing
  • The only thing I’m naturally good at is being a psychotherapist, perhaps because as a small child I took care of the adults around me more than is expected or a child, or maybe I did that, because I just have an unusual level of empathy (no need to envy me for this, it’s not the best basis to make money, for example)
  • If I don’t write I climb the walls and we have thin walls, so I have to write or the building collapses
  • I feel ten times better when I go running regularly, but I haven’t run regularly in about 7 years
  • I prefer to have long hair, but people treat you differently then, and my wife doesn’t like it
  • I would have joined the army if I had been comfortable with public showers
  • I hate the army, but when I was younger I thought the disciplined regime was what I needed
  • People have clashes in their values, which are structured hierarchically, so people can do things that seem very inconsistent with their identity, but it would all make sense if their value structure would be mapped out
  • I can’t believe you’ve read every point on this list

This list is regularly updated

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