Postpone gratification and build up tension.
Otherwise known as foreplay.
There’s a simple rule concerning how long foreplay should last:
Do it for as long as you can, without actually penetrating her or touching her vagina for longer than a couple of seconds, and when you feel it’s really been long enough, continue for at least ten times longer than you’ve already been doing it.
Women are rather complicated in their arousal, sometimes they like it incredibly slow, and something they want to be overwhelmed by your passion. If you can combine good technique with clearly showing how much you desire her, you should be prepared for a geyser.
There’s a brilliant scene in Friends which gets it exactly right:
I don’t know how this got into my mail box because it’s the one I don’t use very much as I set it up to handle travel stuff. It’s interesting even though some might classify it as porn, but I see it as honest writing from a guy’s point of view when it comes to sex. I think we could both learn from this. Would love to have your thoughts.
Betty
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Thanks for the comment. I’m not sure if it’s really written from a guy’s perspective, as this post mostly repeats stuff that women have repeatedly told me. An important aspect that I left out is that women are turned on most by being desired, I think. Am I right or am I wrong?
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No porn, it is core of life subject. Actually, talking sex is part of the foreplay. Yes, Betty, honesty is William. Enjoying this week articles on early Friday night with a glass of rosé. Thanks, KA
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Mmm, rosé
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