- Don’t give advice; We do it all the time when a client is about to do something we feel would be incredibly stupid or self-destructive.
- Don’t answer direct questions. But we do answer them when we get tired of playing games or when we know the answer and we are dying to tell someone.
- Don’t talk about yourself. Although this injunction may be desirable, it is idealistic and ultimately impossible.
- Trust the clients’ capacity for healing. If they had sound judgment concerning what is best for them, they would hardly end up in therapy.
- Don’t get involved in your clients’ lives. This is possible only if you sleep through the sessions.
- You have to like your clients in order to help them. Some of them are genuinely unlikeable.
- Refer those clients who are beyond your specialities and expertise. If we did this, we would grow very little and have very few clients.
- Let the client lead the sessions. If the client can’t control his life, how is he going to be in charge of his cure?
From the candid and often funny book ‘On being a therapist’, by Jeffrey Kottler.