- You can tell them bad news, and they will listen, without starting a story about their own troubles.
2. You can tell them good news, and they will be genuinely happy for you. This characteristic of true friendship is very rare, and it’s why I think most friendships are companionship out of a fear of being alone.
It seems everyone has a different definition of friendship. My own definition, which is narrower than the one above, is so narrow that I’m prone to say I don’t have any friends at the moment, perhaps one or two, though I have lots of people I get along well with, and to be fair, I’m not a true friend to that many people either, there are some, but not many. I often have a hard time fulfilling the second requirement mentioned above.
A facebook friend sent me a picture of a Christmas card he got from ex-employers of his. They send it every year. He writes me: ‘Now this is true friendship’.
Really? I mean, REALLY??
True friendship is sending a Christmas card every year????
I know they hardly have any contact apart from sending this Christmas card and that is supposed to be real friendship?
Wow, what an easy requirement to be listed as a true friend in that person’s book!
So how do you define ‘true friendship’?
Here’s Jordan Peterson on the matter: