Embrace the friend zone!

Want to have a relationship that lasts?

Build a friendship first.

Because after a couple of years it’s what you are left with anyway, no matter how much chemistry there was at the beginning, in the best possible scenario you are heading for a tightly knit friendship.

Some research claims that couples that start out as friends have a dramatically lower chance of ever breaking up.

Makes sense!

When you are in love, you are so full of hormones you don’t see the person for who he or she really is. You are not alert to red flags, you idealize the person, it’s only much later, deep into the relationship you see the whole picture.

So for once, let’s ignore all dating and seduction advice. Sure, if you want to up your chances of getting an easy lay, then definitely go for the advice of pick up artists, these guys know what they are talking about.

But when it comes to building a relationship that lasts? Build a strong friendship first, really get to know each other, BEFORE you dive into all the rampant sex.

If you’re very serious about a person, try for once NOT to avoid the friend zone that many see as so dreadful.

Embrace it.

Get to know the person.

Nothing will prepare you better for the later stages of the potential relationship, because, in the best possible scenario you end up as friends who respect each other fully and put stimulating the other to grow first.

The chemistry driven relationship is so much more ego charged and holds so much potential destruction/implosion in it.

All of you, stop seeing the friend zone as the graveyard of any romantic relationship. It’s not.

Reculer pour mieux sauter, they say in French. Go backwards in order to jump better.

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