‘Digitial castration’, Warren Binford calls it.

A 100 billion dollar industry.

When they tried to find a guy who had never seen any porn for a study, they couldn’t find one. Look at this.

I teach 105 male teenagers and they all know the terminology. Milf, Gilf, fisting, monstercock, bukake, creampie, deepthroat, facial, all that shit.

They do not know what a G-spot is or how to locate it.

All that porn is not to be confused with sex education that will come in handy when in bed with an actual woman.

It probably gives unrealistic expectations.

Porn actresses look a lot less sexy in real life, after all the camera and make-up magic dissapears.

Not that many women want you to cum on their face every time or any time.

It must be making them insecure about their penis size, since most porn actors seem to be hung like a race horse that has just won the Kentucky derby.

All that masturbation can cause ‘dead grip syndrome’, the penis becomes so desensitized that only a very vigorous handjob can make them ejaculate.

The pictures that go with this post are intentionally badly mismatched with the content, because scenes where a man performs cunnilingus on a woman are very rare. And usually they’re doing it wrong, because it’s more important how it looks on camera than what it does for the actress. And it always lasts only a fraction of the time of one of those endless fellation scenes (so very dull to watch…).

Warren Binford calls it ‘digital castration’, because you get overstimulated if you watch a lot of porn, especially at a young age, when your sexual palet is still forming, and your brain is still laying a lot of crucial neural pathways, and it causes quite a few boys to ‘malfunction’ when in bed with an actual woman. They can’t get it up without carefully manipulated pixels getting it on in front of their eyes.

She (and others) also point to ‘regular’ porn functioning as the gateway to more and more extreme porn, even child pornography, because the user builds up tolerance and needs bigger and bigger kicks to still get aroused.

On top of that she also criticizes the industry for how agressively women are treated in most of the videos. They are usually extremely submissive and used in every possible way, quite often with some degree of violence. Now, in reality, many women do like to be submissive and ‘ravished’, but not really in this turbo sort of eyecontactless fashion as in porn.

Maybe we could think a bit more about all the porn teenagers are consuming. Not because I’m against sex, but because I’m all for good sex between two consenting adults. All this porn has little to do with sex and is purely constructed so as to make the male viewer cum as quickly and as often as possible.

It’s not just guys that watch porn of course, women watch it as well. They usually look for performers who show real arousal. Funny is that a significant number turns to gay porn to find what they are looking for, because the performers in gay porn (who are often not even gay themselves) seem more into it, than the guys in straight porn who are shooting their load in true zombie style on the face of someone they’ve just met with a battery of cameras pointing at them.

We may want to inform young guys that sex is a lot more about touching combined with a fine understanding of anatomy than manic and repetitive thrusting.

If you want to watch the Ted Talk:

 

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