A client is obsessed with getting women into bed. I’ve mentioned him before and he doesn’t mind that I mention him as long as I don’t use his real name. He knows he is a junkie, he knows he is addicted to that high of having seduced one, he is just not ready to overcome that addiction and little by little he is getting tired of his own behaviour. He often sends me articles about ‘seduction’, which have nothing to do with seduction but are about trying to figure out patterns in women’s behaviour that can be exploited to have them take their clothes off for you so you can use their body as bandage for your starving ego. He knows that. He lives by the idea of ‘God make me pure, but not today’.

Today he sent me some article about why women fall for ‘con men’. Men playing their tricks on them to get them into bed. According to the article ‘con’ comes from the word ‘confidence’. The con man manages to extract something from you by making you feel confident, it’s not so much about him exuding confidence and that making him attractive. The idea is that women go for men who have bedded many women with the motivation that they will be the exception, they will be so special and attractive and smart and radiant that the serial seducer stops hunting for more ego fixes, he has enough in her. The article doesn’t mention this, but I assume that if a woman like that does indeed manage to domesticate a serial womanizer, she will drop him like a bug infested sandwich she dug up from behind a couch. She was never interested in him as person, he was a challenge, a puzzle, to prove to herself she was superior. Once he does fall for her the spell is broken and he can no longer function as a promise of ego boost. Both use each other. My client knows full well he is also being used by the women who decide to sleep with him. I doubt very much that these women want sex, from his stories it’s obvious that they want the ‘I am so gorgeous, a tall European with money fell for me’ label. This is also obvious from the fact that his game fails with the most confident women who don’t even appear on dating apps, cause there is just no need for them to be on there. Those are the women he catches glimpses of on the streets, but hang out at private parties he is not invited to. He will have to up his conmanship to reach to that level. Meaning if he wants to get top level cocaine and not crack cocaine.

This is how the client sees it, in his home country no drug (no women) was available, but in the Asian country he is now he can afford to score something, just not the really good, pure and uncut stuff. He is a human of his time where we measure the external value of something of a person, everything because but an object to create an image of success for ourselves, not realizing that we never have enough, never feel content, are always restless and most of all, fail to build connections or intimacy. I once told this client that he doesn’t have intimacy with anyone, am the closest thing he has to intimacy. To my surprise he googled the word intimacy and wrote me: ‘I don’t think I want intimacy with women. I read that if you build intimacy with women they will see you as a loser.’ I didn’t ask him how the hell he got google to come up with that or how far down in the search results he had to scavenge to find that. Or maybe google knows him and it was the first result. Yesterday he told me he met a woman and he wants to make it a ‘more long term thing’. He wrote her to arrange a date, but she let him know that she was of no use to him, because she has her period. At least she knows what he’s after. He told me again that he really does want to make it an ‘exclusive’ thing. Note how relationships are discussed as if they are marketing items. He wanted to write her: ‘we can just be lazy and hang out’.

I said it sounded like: ok, so the circus is closed but we can wait outside on a bench till it opens again. After three more attempts we settled on the message that he really enjoys her company and he would like to do something that they both enjoy. It felt genuine. So basically my message was that if he wanted to make it into a long term thing he had to be…. kind to her. You would think that am then confident this woman will answer favorably, but no, she could be so used to being used as an object, for whatever reason, that a kind message like that – and it was kind, cause based on other things he told me he really does seem to like her for more than her body – makes her run away in disgust. Her message saying she would be of no use to him indicates as much. I also told him that perhaps she really wants to be left alone for now and simply wants some alone time. Based on what some female clients tell me a woman’s period can be much more brutal than we have any reference for. For the rest of the day some dark clouds hung over me, not just because of this, but just everything, the invisble walls between people everywhere, the very visible Apartheid walls between peoples, the carnage, and the hypocrisy the carnage is wrapped in every day, again and again, the same talking heads being hishonest about what is happening and also people like Piers Morgan milking all the misery for their own personal advancement.

And then the striking fact that a person as completely hollow and deliberately presenting himself as dumber than he really is, still does a better job than most journalists, since in all his fake outrage over October 7th and deliberate misunderstanding of Israel’s nature, he does give an enormous platform to pro-Palestinian voices who speak the truth about the whole mess. And that is my cursed head, linking grand tales of legendary womanising in an Asian capital to the lies that serve to blow up kids into bits of flesh. We operate in lies, in self-deception, the context may vary, but humans seems to always have to do what they do behind smoke screens. It’s not just about Palestine when you and I are passionate about getting the truth out about Palestine, I think it’s a more fundamental fight for stopping the bullshit factories everywhere, including in ourselves. For example, I wonder if I wrote this partially, in Piers Morgan style, to show how wonderfully objective I can be in working with clients.

I mean, Alan Dershowitz doesn’t bother me, even though I don’t agree with him, am much more triggered by Piers Morgan, because the things that bother me about him, are in me too. I have some things in common with Alan Dershowitz too, but I don’t share his worst characteristics, so he doesn’t trigger me. Piers Morgan triggers me. I see the same people pleasing in him that is in me. I hate that about myself, so I feel almost something like fury towards Piers Morgan. Alan Dershowitz I can just shrug off and I can just use whatever he says as somehow useful info to help Palestine. I repeat what Peter Crone always says: ‘Life will present you with situations and people where you are not free.’ Piers Morgan is showing me am not free. My client is shown he is not free when talking to women he gives absurd value too, because he thinks that by sleeping with them their perceived value will rub off on him. That closes another session of failing to use Twitter the way it is engineered.